2 Years

2 years with the love of my life.

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Sometimes it feels like we have only been together a few months and other times it feels like 20 years. Not in a bad way! Just that so much has happened, I cannot believe it has only been 2 years. So here is a little taste of what has happened in our lives…

Wesley and I both went through career changes. I started school to be a Master Esthetician, graduated last year, and worked in a spa for several months. Wesley decided to join the Army, graduated from Basic Training, and is currently in his Advanced Training.

Last year, we bought our first house and we love that little yellow beauty! But, with Wesley joining the Army, we have had to move out and let someone else make that house into a home.

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The past couple years have been filled with adventures, pictures, heartache, drives, and love. Most of all love. I loved Wesley sooo freakin’ much when we got married and I could not imagine any greater love than what we had. Over these last couple years, we have fallen more and more in love and it just blows my mind.

Has it always been easy? Nope. Are things just sunshine and rainbows all the time? Nah. But, when there are dark days, there is no one else I would rather spend those days with. Wesley and I are so much stronger from the things we have been through and we have learned so much about ourselves, each other, and our relationship.

Wesley really is my soul mate. I can’t even tell you how many times we have said the same thing at the same time or both had a craving for the same restaurant. My favorite is when Wesley calls me and asks if I have been having a bad day because he had a feeling like I was not doing well. I love this man.

Alright, I am done with all the cheese now- I promise!

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A Year Of Color : De-Stressing With Lavender

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We all experience stress. Whether you have Chronic Stress, stress out over that big meeting coming up, or stressing over the next blog post you are going to do- it happens. I have always felt stressed but I never really studying stress itself until I was in Esthetics school. We were learning all about stress and the effects it can have on the body (and on your skin) and I realized one of the reasons I got into Skin Care was so I could help people relax and help ease some of the stress they are experiencing.

Stress can cause headaches, upset stomach, changes in sex drive, sleep problems, anxiety, depression, irritability, overeating, and drug use. The list goes on and on. Seriously. Stress affects our bodies more ways than we even realize. If you deal with stress often (like me), you start learning what your body does when you are stressed. For me, my body has lots of fun ways of letting me know I need to chill: The cartilage in my rib cage gets inflamed causing horrible pains. I also get bad sore throats and ulcers on tongue. Yeah, it’s sexy I know. Then, I get more stressed out because my body is in so much pain. It’s a vicious cycle.

Today, I want to share some of the ways you can help de-stress yourself. Lavender is one of the most calming aromas on the planet (check out my aromatherapy post to learn more about how smell works) so I thought I would share some of the best ways to use Lavender to help relax!

Diffusing is a great way to help get a certain aroma all around your house. If you are busy and can’t take the time to just relax, diffusing is a great option for you. Drop a few drops of Lavender into a Diffuser and then you can keep on doing whatever it is you need to be doing. Since the diffuser does the work for you- and they are small enough you can have one at home or work- you can enjoy the aroma where ever you are!

If you have some more time to take to yourself, you could always take a nice bubble bath or do a little self massage. You can find products with Lavender in them pretty much everywhere (watch out for anything synthetic!). My favorite lavender products are from Aveda’s Stress-Fix line. This line includes, lotions, oils, bath salts, and a body cleanser.

These are just some of my favorite ways to de-stress with one of my favorite, most calming oils. Of course, everyone has their own ways to relax. Maybe you like to go see a movie or go fishing or take a hike. Whatever way you love to relax- do it! Please do not forget to love and take care of yourself.

It’s not OK right now (and that’s OK)

I know- it’s been awhile since I blogged. Honestly, I have been trying to stay so busy that I don’t even have moments to myself. I am trying to keep busy so I don’t start missing my husband.

My husband joined the United States Army. It feels so strange typing that. I never thought I would be in this position. I remember- throughout my entire life- I would see as men and women left their spouses for deployment and I would think ‘Oh my gosh. I could never ever do that. I couldn’t be away from my husband for that long.’ And now, I am going to be one of those women. It’s weird.

It seems like my personal mantra the past few weeks has been “It’s all okay.” That’s what my friends keep telling me, what my family keeps reminding me, and what I am constantly telling myself. It’s all okay. Everything will be fine.

The other day I was talking to a woman who’s husband had been in the military for several years. I told her how I was feeling about everything and I ended my rambling sentence with my statement of “But, it’s all okay.” This woman looked at me as if she was trying to decide if she should say what she was thinking. “I don’t want you to take this the wrong way or let this freak you out- but, it’s not okay. It’s going to be really hard and you’re probably going to cry a lot. He’s your husband and he is going to be gone for months at a time. It’s okay if something like that makes you sad.”
This has been the most helpful thing anyone has said to me about my husband joining the Army.
Of course I won’t be fine. The love of my life is leaving. I won’t be able to see him and I will barely be able to talk to him. It’s going to suck. It’s probably going to be the worst thing I have ever had to deal with. And that’s fine. It’s okay for me to be sad about this. It’s okay if I don’t have it all together. It’s okay if I can’t handle it right now. I’m still going to work, I’m still going to hang out with my friends, I’m still going to visit my family, and I’m still going to continue living my life and being as happy as possible.
It’s not gonna be okay right now and that’s okay. Because some days will be harder than others. Some days all I’m going to eat is ice cream. Some days will be great and I will go on drives and on hikes an do whatever I want to do.
It’s not gonna be okay right now and that’s okay. Because I am allowed to have feelings and emotions. I don’t have to be happy all the time. If I need to cry, I’m going to cry and then move on with my day.
It’s not gonna be okay right now and that’s okay. Because I know this isn’t going to last forever. I know that I love my husband more than anything and he loves me. I know that he wants to help our country and help others
One of my favorite quotes is something along the lines of “Everything will be alright in the end and if it’s not alright, then it’s not the end.” I’m okay with not being okay sometimes because I know it won’t always be hard and the days won’t always be bad. But, in the end, it will be great.
It won’t always be okay. And that’s fine with me. Because it will be someday.
fine.

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Valentine’s Day is right around the corner and I love this holiday! It is tied with Halloween for my favorite. Sometimes, you get to spend the entire day with your loved one for Valentine’s Day- other times, you may only get a couple hours to grab some breakfast or a drink before needing to do other things.
So, I wanted to give a few different ideas for the whole day that you can use together or just one idea for whatever you may have time for!

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8:30 AM – Treat yourself to donuts. Chances are your local donut places also has milk, chocolate milk, or coffee. Start your day with a yummy, sugary treat. If all you have is the morning together on Valentine’s Day, then this is a fun thing to do because you get some time to yourself while eating a delicious (although fattening) breakfast.

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1:00 PM – If you get to leave work early and you and your honey love relaxing together, why not get a couple’s massage? These tend to book out quickly for Valentine’s Day (I know this firsthand because I work in a spa). But, if you book your appointment in advance and try a few different places, you should be just fine! Couple’s massages are so intimate and relaxing and several places offer lots of specials to make this special date even more special.

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5:30 PM – Watch the sunset. Whether you have a picnic in the last light of the day, or catch the last bit of light and then go stargazing- watching the sunset is very romantic. This date idea also doesn’t cost anything! So go find a tall building or a mountain top this Valentine’s Day.

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8:00 PM – Now you have had a long day of either needing to be at work, taking care of kids, or spending a lovely day with your sweetheart. No matter how your day has been, you’re probably ready for a drink. I am not sure what this may mean to you- to me, it means soda or hot chocolate. There is this adorable place by where we live called Pop N’ Sweets. They have candy, chocolate, and soda from all over the world! They even have a cute little hot chocolate bar. When Wesley and I went, I got dark hot chocolate and he got… ButterBeer! I know… I know… way cool.

Whether you have an early breakfast, a nightcap, or all of the above with your love- I hope you have a wonderful Valentine’s Day!